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1) WHO’S YOUR JONATHAN? YOU NEED A TRUE FRIEND!

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1 Sam 19:1-6 And Saul spake to Jonathan his son, and to all his servants, that they should kill David. 2. But Jonathan Saul’s son delighted much in David: and Jonathan told David, saying, Saul my father seeketh to kill thee: now therefore, I pray thee, take heed to thyself until the morning, and abide in a secret place, and hide thyself: 3.And I will go out and stand beside my father in the field where thou art, and I will commune with my father of thee; and what I see, that I will tell thee.4. And Jonathan spake good of David unto Saul his father, and said unto him, Let not the king sin against his servant, against David; because he hath not sinned against thee, and because his works have been to thee-ward very good: 5. For he did put his life in his hand, and slew the Philistine, and the Lord wrought a great salvation for all Israel: thou sawest it, and didst rejoice: wherefore then wilt thou sin against innocent blood, to slay David without a cause? 6. And Saul hearkened unto the voice of Jonathan: and Saul sware, As the Lord liveth, he shall not be slain.

THE IMPORTANCE OF RELATIONSHIPS

Eccl 4:9-10 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. 10. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.

THE UNIQUE FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN

JONATHAN AND DAVID

  •   Jonathan was the son of King Saul
  •   Stories of Goliath, Successful on the Battlefield, Saul killed 1000’s, David his 10,000’s
  •   King Saul jealous, despised David’s popularity
  •   Saul probably didn’t understand the relationship of Jonathan and David
  •   Jonathan defending David, Saul “this man will take your throne”

JONATHAN WAS A “REAL” FRIEND DOES:

  •  Jonathan was willing to lead a life of decreasing significance in order that David might be exalted by God.
  •  A Jonathan friendship is not threatened by competition.

YOUR JONATHAN IS YOUR SECOND SELF

One Philosopher, Cicero said this “The true friend is, so to speak, a second self

  •   a Jonathan believes in you when no one else does
  •   a Jonathan is loyal even when you make it hard to be loyal
  •   a Jonathan is the first to call in good times or in bad
  •   a Jonathan gives and gives and wants no payment
  •   a Jonathan walks with you in all seasons
  •   a Jonathan won’t let you surrender to your dark side
  •   a Jonathan has seen you transparent, in all your treachery and lechery, and loves you anyway
  •   a Jonathan keeps you in check
  •   a Jonathan grants you grace when you take them for granted
  •   a Jonathan sacrifices himself for you

NOT “BEST,” BUT “TRUE”

Jonathan is not your best friend but a true friend

Proverbs 18:24 There are “friends” who pretend to be friends, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (TLB)

  • It just depends on where you are in life which “best” is “best”
  • The Irish defined Jonathan as the anam cara, the “soul friend”; the true friend

ENDANGERED SPECIES 

(these types of friendships are so rare, many live life and die without one)

The reason some people never have a Jonathan friendship is because they aren’t willing to be jonathans themselves.

Proverbs 18:24 A man that hath friends must show himself friendly:

If you don’t have a friend like this you need to evaluate what type of friend you are.

3 SYNDROMS/SINDROMES

 

1) EGOSYSTEM SYNDROME

“What’s in it for me?”

Jealousy, rivalry, greed, distance, indifference poisons true friendship and kills our Jonathans.

  •   Every time he painted a portrait, John Singer Sergeant said he lost a friend.
  •   Gore Vidal has famously admitted, “Every time a friend succeeds, I die a little”.

2) “NO DOWN ELEVATOR” SYNDROME

Most suffer from shallow relationships. Psychologist Dan Montgomery used the image of taking the elevator down to describe deeper levels of trust in relationships.

  •   A) LOBBY FLOOR: FAÇADE
    •  Small talk is valuable and necessary for meeting new people and doing business with people we don’t know well
  •   B) BASEMENT FLOOR: ACQUAINTANCE
    •    We reveal some of our private sentiments and opinions
  •   C) SUB-BASEMENT FLOOR: FRIENDSHIP
    •    We must willingly experience emotional vulnerability
    •    We look for compatibility, empathy, and mutual trust
  •   D) BOTTOM FLOOR: INTIMACY
    •    We share the heart’s desires
    •    We come clean with our dark side

3) “WHAT, ME SACRIFICE?” SYNDROME

Perhaps the truest cost of friendship is our most precious commodity: TIME.

A relationship that requires sacrifice is not well suited to 21st C life – but sacrifice is the embodiment of a Jonathan relationship.

John 15:13 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.

  •   That is what TRUE friends do…
  •   The greatest act of friendship was Jesus Christ.

This series is loosely based off Leonard Sweet’s book by 11: Indispensable Relationships You Can’t Be Without   and the preaching notes of my friend, Shawn Stickler, Lead Pastor of The Pentecostals of Quinte in Belleville, ON. I have also personalized these outlines with my own thoughts and stories.

FRIENDS OF THE BIBLE SERIES

LESSON ONE: WHO’S YOUR JONATHAN? YOU NEED A TRUE FRIEND!

LESSON TWO: WHO’S YOUR NATHAN? YOU NEED AN EDITOR!

LESSON THREE: WHO’S YOUR JETHRO? YOU NEED A MOTIVATOR!

LESSON FOUR: WHO’S YOUR DEBORAH? YOU NEED A PROTECTOR!

LESSON FIVE: WHO’S YOUR BARNABAS? YOU NEED AN ENCOURAGER!

LESSON SIX: WHO’S YOUR RHODA? YOU NEED A LITTLE ONE!

LESSON SEVEN: WHO’S YOUR PAUL/PETER? YOU NEED A MENTOR!

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Posted on July 14, 2014, in Friends of the Bible Series, Ministry Monday. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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